This week, I’m talking with SafferMaster and Lady Petra, a cisgender, straight, and very kinky couple who live in a full-time power exchange relationship, and hosts of the Kinky Cocktail Hour podcast. SafferMaster is a sensual sadist and Lady Petra is a masochist. In their relationship SafferMaster is the dominant while Lady Petra is submissive, but Lady Petra is only submissive to SafferMaster, and it also a domme to other men. We had a great conversation talking about their incredibly connected relationship, how they found each other after leaving long, unhappy marriages, their current sex and kink forward relationship, the difference between a slave and a submissive, and many other topics. If you want to hear more from them, be sure to check out their Kinky Cocktail Hour podcast or any of their other sites linked below.
One note about the episode’s transcript. I’m trying something new by linking to the transcript separately, with a subtitled video. I’d like to make this podcast as accessible as possible, so if you use transcripts or subtitles when you listen to podcasts and have any feedback on them, please let me know!
There were some terms used that may be new for some folks. Here is a glossary of some of those terms. Unless otherwise indicated, definitions come from the FetLife Kinktionary.
CBT (from Wikipedia): Cock and Ball Torture: is a sexual activity involving the application of pain or constriction to the penis or testicles.
Little: A person who identifies with or enjoys exhibiting a child-like mindset and/or behaviors. Their relationships may or may not include a power exchange component.
Figging (from Wikipedia): the practice of inserting a piece of skinned ginger root into the human anus or the vagina in order to generate an acute burning sensation
Protocol (from Peter Masters): refers to a set of rules of behavior used between two or more people to indicate rank. In BDSM, protocols are rules for a submissive or slave which apply to their interactions with other people, typically their dominant or master, and other BDSM associates. Frequently, different levels of protocols are defined for different occasions—such as high protocol, formal or casual.
Slave: A person who agrees to give total control to someone who they are in a relationship with.
Submissive: A person who participates in relationships, scenes and activities as a Top/Dominant or bottom/submissive depending on their mood, partner or the situation. Some switches enjoy changing their power dynamic during the scene.
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