This week, I’m talking with Amanda VanderBroek, who I interviewed about four years ago under her pen name: Leandra Vane. She’s a kinky, poly, sexually fluid woman, and we had a great conversation talking about all that’s changed over the last four years, including being outed and having to fight for the validity of her identity, facing gatekeepers within the queer and erotic writing communities, living as a bisexual, kinky person in the rural Midwest, how writing about monsters and zombies can help reveal things about the treatment of sexual and racial minorities, and a lot of other things.

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Clive and Julianna

It’s been a while! Running a podcast in your spare time can be a challenge sometimes, and work and life commitments got in the way for a bit, but the guests I interviewed still deserve to be heard!

A couple of weeks ago, I was contacted by Clive and Julianna, who wanted to have me as a guest on their podcast: Re-sex, where they discuss sexual experiences and kinks that they have changed their approach to. Of course, I said yes, and we had a great conversation. This is the discussion we had, which you can also hear on their podcast, along with other great interviews they’ve had. We talk about podcasting, life in and after the pandemic, and how we all have learned and evolved into the people we are today.

That conversation with Clive and Julianna inspired me to get back on track, and over the next few weeks, I’ll be posting catching up and posting interviews of the great people I talked to.

I sincerely apologize to my guests who I interviewed last year. The lateness of these posts is a reflection on my own time management and definitely not an indication of the value of your amazing conversations!

I hope everyone gets as much as I have out of these illuminating discussions.

Show Notes

From the Vault: Moniqa and Michael

This week we’re going back in time again with two interviews I recorded for the Intersections Project — the predecessor to The Human Tapestry Podcast.

Our first from-the-vault Intersections interview was with Moniqa: a bisexual, demisexual and questioning demi/gray-romantic woman. Through our conversation, I learned how important the word “woman” is to her, and what it means to be demisexual.

Next is Michael: a gay married man who has remained married but separated. We discussed the effect of his identities on his family and life and some resources that have helped him through.

Episode 5 – Niesha

This week, I’m talking with Niesha, a wonderful cis, bisexual, black woman, who I also happen to work with. We had a great conversation talking about discovering her sexuality, how marrying a woman doesn’t make you a lesbian, having a minority identity at work, changing conversations in the black community, and raising a black girl with two moms.


Episode 3 – Katie

This week, I’m talking with Katie, a nonbinary, bisexual, demisexual, poly, kinky human, and a partner of Dan Q who you heard in our first episode. We talked about Katy’s gender and relationships, genderbread persons, growing attractions, labels, roller derby, and autistic humans and cats.

More about genderbread persons:

We briefly dropped into “roller derby speak”, so a brief translation:

  • WFTDA stands for the Women’s Flat Track Derby Association, the international governing body for the sport of women’s flat track roller derby:
  • NSO stands for non-skating official. There are two sets of officials at roller derby games, skating (referees) and non-skating (NSOs).

Episode 2 – Jim and Donna

This week, I’m talking with Jim and Donna. Jim describes himself as straight, fairly kinky but rusty, and Donna is straight with bi leanings.

This was actually the first interview I recorded but it’s in our second episode due to some errors on my side as I get to know how to make this podcast work. You’ll hear some glitches still, but it’s a great, real, honest conversation with a couple wonderful humans. You’ll also hear them call me “Taco”, because we have a connection through the world of roller derby where I’m known as Stray Taco.

Join us as we discuss family, growing beyond stereotypes we believed, polyamory lessons learned, roller derby, love, learning, growing, and a whole lot of life.

Episode 1 – Dan Q

For the first episode of the Human Tapestry, I talked to Dan, a bisexual man who lives in Oxford, England, with his partner and her husband in what he describes as a “polyamorous V-shaped thingy”. Listen as we talk about relationships, identities, the “bi-cycle”, and various forms of vegetarianism.

You can also learn more about Dan on his blog, Dan Q.

I’m thrilled to be able to release this first episode on June 28th. The anniversary of the Stonewall Uprising and the 50th anniversary of the first Pride parade is the perfect chance to bring it to life! It’s also coming out in a time of another uprising as the United States is being forced to take an honest look at our dark history of racism and intolerance.

I want to continue these conversations around sexual and gender identity, and around racial identity, especially now when the intersections of race and life are being magnified in the streets by so many brave humans.
So, I’m looking for humans to be a part of the conversation! While I’m very happy to interview anyone of any sexuality, gender, or lifestyle, if you identify as Black, Indigenous or a person of color, and would be willing to have a conversation around the intersections of your race, identity, and life, please hit me up!