Amy Gahran and the Relationship Escalator

This week, I’m talking with Amy Gahran, a Solo (not single), egalitarian, polyamorous straight woman and author of “Stepping off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life” — a research-based guidebook to intimate relationship diversity.

Some of you may know Amy by her pen name that she used to blog under: Aggie Sez.

We had a great conversation talking about solo polyamory, the relationship escalator, different kinds of monogamy, egalitarian relationships, and a bunch of other topics.

Amy’s website: https://offescalator.com

Amy’s book: “Stepping off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life” — a research-based guidebook to intimate relationship diversity. It explores the set of strong social norms that traditionally have defined how intimate relationships “should” work, and shows how people are diverging from each of these norms.

The blog post that started it all: https://solopoly.net/2012/11/29/riding-the-relationship-escalator-or-not/

Episode 3 – Katie

This week, I’m talking with Katie, a nonbinary, bisexual, demisexual, poly, kinky human, and a partner of Dan Q who you heard in our first episode. We talked about Katy’s gender and relationships, genderbread persons, growing attractions, labels, roller derby, and autistic humans and cats.

More about genderbread persons: https://www.genderbread.org/

We briefly dropped into “roller derby speak”, so a brief translation:

  • WFTDA stands for the Women’s Flat Track Derby Association, the international governing body for the sport of women’s flat track roller derby: https://wftda.com/
  • NSO stands for non-skating official. There are two sets of officials at roller derby games, skating (referees) and non-skating (NSOs).

Episode 2 – Jim and Donna

This week, I’m talking with Jim and Donna. Jim describes himself as straight, fairly kinky but rusty, and Donna is straight with bi leanings.

This was actually the first interview I recorded but it’s in our second episode due to some errors on my side as I get to know how to make this podcast work. You’ll hear some glitches still, but it’s a great, real, honest conversation with a couple wonderful humans. You’ll also hear them call me “Taco”, because we have a connection through the world of roller derby where I’m known as Stray Taco.

Join us as we discuss family, growing beyond stereotypes we believed, polyamory lessons learned, roller derby, love, learning, growing, and a whole lot of life.

Episode 1 – Dan Q

For the first episode of the Human Tapestry, I talked to Dan, a bisexual man who lives in Oxford, England, with his partner and her husband in what he describes as a “polyamorous V-shaped thingy”. Listen as we talk about relationships, identities, the “bi-cycle”, and various forms of vegetarianism.

You can also learn more about Dan on his blog, Dan Q.

I’m thrilled to be able to release this first episode on June 28th. The anniversary of the Stonewall Uprising and the 50th anniversary of the first Pride parade is the perfect chance to bring it to life! It’s also coming out in a time of another uprising as the United States is being forced to take an honest look at our dark history of racism and intolerance.

I want to continue these conversations around sexual and gender identity, and around racial identity, especially now when the intersections of race and life are being magnified in the streets by so many brave humans.
So, I’m looking for humans to be a part of the conversation! While I’m very happy to interview anyone of any sexuality, gender, or lifestyle, if you identify as Black, Indigenous or a person of color, and would be willing to have a conversation around the intersections of your race, identity, and life, please hit me up!